“Whoever has My commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves Me”.
Jesus - John 14:21a
“Following hard after Jesus is the heart’s natural response
when it has been captured and has fallen deeply in love with Him”.
-from “Captivating”
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Saturday night
Here are Steve and Cyndie Iwan who just arrived to work with us in the office. They are SIMers who are on loan to us. Cyndie is helping at the missionary school here and Steve is doing all sorts of mechanical and technical things at the office. They have 4 children. Akwaaba! Welcome to Ghana. We are glad they are here.
We weren't specifically celebrating anything for Lee and Michelle but I had to take a picture of them:)
We were also saying an early farewell to Jeremy Maller. He has been here for almost 6 weeks and leaves at the beginning of March. But he will be back in June for two years as the Project Manager for the region.
Kevin and Dayna Garland are here for our big conference that starts on Weds. but they were able to come a week early to be tourists. We are so glad they were able to do that! Dayna works for HCJB Global in the communications department and Kevin is an IT man for a large company. I hope they can return to spend time with us again. It has been a blast having them here.
Cultural dancers and drums
several friends to play with him and also some dancers to put on a real concert for us. Words cannot possibly do justice to the private show we were privileged to see. I hope to have a video link to what we recorded at some point. They were all amazing. Kevin, Dayna, Lee and I drove all the way to down town Accra to meet them at the Art Center. After waiting about 1 hour for everyone to show up we followed them to a little housing area near the ocean where they had rented a space for the show. Eventually we were surrounded by onlookers who enjoyed it all as much as we did. I am not sure I understood all
that the dancers were interpreting but they performed 5 or 6 dances from all over Ghana and even Africa. To say they were amazing is a gross understatement!! Dayna and I got a brief dance lesson - hers is on tape:) After about a 2 hour show and "recording session" we all carried the drums back to the road where the guys took over a tro tro and we piled in. And I mean piled in. About 15 drums of all sizes and 20 people. It was crazy. The two guys at the back were literally hanging out the door. Crazy but fun. It really was just a wonderful time to meet more Ghanaians and to see a new aspect of their culture. We even were able to have a brief talk of Christianity and
Rastafarianism after the concert was over. Opportunities to talk come in the strangest places sometimes:)
You can see more pictures of the dancers and drums by clicking the link to the left.
I was taking pictures of the kids and then showing them how they looked in the digital screen. It was quite the hit. I suspect that many of them have never seen their own picture.
Getting some tips for Ghanaian dancing. This isn't your country line dancing that's for sure!!!
One of several beautiful onlookers for the concert. She is just precious.
Dayna being captured on "film" and video for her dance lesson. She did a great job!
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Hail to the Chief!
Update: My team and I went up on the balcony at Lee and Michelle's and we did see Air Force 1 fly by. It was pretty cool. Huge plane and remarkably quiet. That is the closest I have ever been to a US President:)
Monday, February 18, 2008
Patience is a virtue
There were two things I enjoyed about today - well three. One was the driving. Yes, I really like it now and am trying to be as Ghanaian as possible when doing it:) Second - was the time spent with Michelle. Even though much of what we did was frustrating we still had a good time together and got several other things accomplished. Thirdly - I had some time to talk with Auntie Ruby who has lived in Ghana for I think over 30 years. Isn't that incredible?? In the few minutes we had she was really understanding and encouraging to me about the culture stress I am experiencing and that yes life in Ghana is hard. This is from a woman who really knows. I am understanding more why I am tired. It isn't just the heat and the running around to get almost anything done. A large part of it is the mental work. I am seeing more and more that my natural thought progression in a given situation is - of course - American and I have to really work to adjust to what is done here. That is the mental strain - and often emotional strain - that goes on. A simple thing like customer service. Now I know we don't expect a lot of that usually from government workers even in the states but I am talking more generally than the episode with immigration today. If I go to a store or office in the states, I expect to get at least most if not all of the employee's attention. And if their attention is distracted, there is usually an apology and attempt to make it right. Here that doesn't happen. Whether at the bank, the store, immigration, the money changing place...people are always stepping in front of you to ask a question or give a paper and the person working with you will answer 3-4 people at once as well as answer the phone. Somehow things almost always end up the right way but it is irritating at first to have all this confusion and not get the worker's attention. Believe it or not that simple situation takes a lot of mental work and prayer to remain calm and adjust to their way of doing things. The strain comes from doing this over and over in many, many different ways and situations.
My awareness of my surroundings is coming in layers. I have noticed this over the last few months. At first I was overwhelmed by the driving and the whole atmosphere of living here but as I have settled into it, I am seeing deeper into the community. Little things like seeing past the first line of houses to notice the church or mosque in my neighborhood. Or the fact that the chickens I see everywhere are hobbled in some form or another so they can't run too far or fly away. Unfortunately this seems to mean they only have one foot or leg so that is a little hard to look at. Or the fact that the men often seem to take a very active - and tender - role in caring for the children. Anyway, it is like the shock of the first layer is wearing off and now I can see underneath it...and then underneath the next layer, etc. Of course having to deal with government officials is a whole different layer but I am being exposed to it little by little and sooner or later the shock will wear off. Just like it did for the driving:) I find this process fascinating and tiring - ok and yes frustrating- but still interesting. Never a dull moment that is for sure.
On to things with more value
Next week we are hosting a conference for our partners around the Sub-Saharan Africa (SSA) region. We also have several colleagues joining us from the US. One couple arrived this past Friday for their first visit to Africa. They came early to get in some sight seeing before the conference. There is so much to do here that even in the two weeks they will be here they have really had to prioritize what they want to see and do. We will do the "usual" visitor things which include going to Kakum National Park to do the canopy walk, see Elmina slave castle and get at least a few hours at the beach. Then they have a few specific things that they want to do. In the middle of this we are trying to finish organizing the rest of the accommodations, visas and flight schedules for those attending the meeting. I don't anticipate that I will be doing any sight seeing with Kevin and Dayna as there is still plenty to do and I expect many last minute things to come up. In the midst of the work though there is an excitement as so far we have confirmation of attending the conference from every partner in SSA except one. And it will be neat to spend time with our friends and co-workers from HCJB who are coming in for the meetings.
I am happy to say that Eva is doing better. Although she has a slow road of gaining her strength back, the infection and fever are gone. It was determined that she did not have typhoid fever but instead had malaria and also a severe infection. Actually the doctor said that she was very close to septic shock and that is not good at all. We thank the Lord for protecting her in Liberia and for her not getting really sick until she was home where she could receive good care and attention.
Saturday, February 16, 2008
I'll try really hard to keep the NASCAR references to a minimum on here. But I am so excited that Lee told me yesterday he will be getting some of the races on TV here. Can you imagine NASCAR in Africa? We think it is b/c there is a South African who is going to be racing on the circuit so the South African run DSTV will be airing some races. Very exciting! One last plug for Jeff Gordon before the Daytona 500 tomorrow.
(It is Sunday night and I am watching the Daytona 500 live!! Thanks to my boss for "giving" me his TV for a few hours.) Really feel home now!
Friday, February 15, 2008
A favorite thing
This is one of my favorite things to do... put babies to sleep. Those who know me well know I have an uncanny ability to do this. I don't know why - no I don't bore them to sleep:) Just rock them and cuddle them. This little girl is Hope. She is being fostered by someone at the missionary school where I was today and will be adopted soon. Isn't she adorable? This is the first time I have really done this since I got here. It was so wonderful!!
My Lucky jeans
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
True Love is...
"The story the Bible tells is of a living being who loves and who continues to love even when that love is not returned. A God who refuses to override our freedom, who respects our power to decide whether to reciprocate, a God who lets us make the next move.
Love is handing your heart to someone and taking the risk that they will hand it back because they don't want it. That's why it's such a crushing ache on the inside. We gave away a part of ourselves and it wasn't wanted.
Love is a giving away of power. When we love, we give the other person the power in the relationship. They can do what they choose. They can do what they like with our love. They can reject it, they can accept it, they can step toward us in gratitude and appreciation.
Love is a giving away. When we love, we put ourselves out there, we expose ourselves, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
Love is giving up control. It's surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two - love and controlling power over the other person - are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all of the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.
So if you were God - which I realize is an odd way to begin a sentence - but if you were God, the all-powerful creator of the universe, and you wanted to move toward people, you wanted to express your love for the world in a new way, how would you do it?....
If you're God and you want to express ultimate love to your creation, if you want to move toward them in a definitive way, you have a problem, because just showing up overwhelms people.
You wouldn't come as you are.
You wouldn't come in strength.
You wouldn't come in your pure, raw essence. You'd scare everybody away.
The last thing people would perceive is love.
So how would you express your love in an ultimate way? How do you connect with people in a manner that wouldn't scare them off but would compel them to want to come closer, to draw nearer?
You would need to strip yourself of all of the trappings that come with ultimate power and authority. That's how love works. It doesn't matter if a man has a million dollars and wants to woo a woman, if she loves him for his money, it isn't really love.
If you were an almighty being who made the universe and everything in it, you would need to meet people on their level, in their world, on their soil...like them.
This is the story of the Bible. This is the story of Jesus. ...
His (Jesus') entire life is about the stripping away of power and control. Jesus always chooses the path of love, not power. Inclusion, not exclusion. Connection and solidarity rather than rank and hierarchy. Touch rather than distance. Compassion rather than control. He comes on a donkey, not a horse. Weeping and broken, not proud and triumphant."
I'll stop here before I quote the whole book:) It just struck me in a fresh way how much God loves us that He would send Jesus to be on our level to connect with us. Just as in earthly relationships where we can move toward or away from someone, we can do the same with Jesus. And yet He never stops loving us and never turns away. Talk about amazing love!
I encourage you to read this book. Perhaps it will impact you as it is impacting me.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Harmatan
The harmatan has effectively been blown away. For those who don't know...the harmatan is the fine dust that is blown down from the Sahara Desert on a yearly basis. It hangs in the air making it difficult to see normal things like...the sun...and it puts layers of dust on everything it comes in contact with. For example, when it was here I could wipe the kitchen counter 4-5 times a day and each time the cloth would be dark brown with the dust. It does play havoc with the sinuses. But the nice thing about it is that b/c it hangs in the air and blocks the sun, the temperatures are quite cool for here and there is little humidity. About last Tuesday, I woke up and knew that the harmatan was starting to leave b/c I could feel the rise in humidity (yes otherwise known as starting to sweat). So now it is pretty much gone and we are about to enter -from what I am told- the hottest part of the year. Apparently Feb-April are going to be scorchers. Yikes. I am learning that we have three basic seasons here sweat, dust and rain:) It will be great once we get our first good rain b/c it will clear the dust from trees and plants and fresh new growth will be everywhere. I can already see new leaves on the bushes from a slight rain we had on Saturday. Ok the weather lesson is over.
(You can see from the picture that the lake and hills right in front of where I am standing to take the picture are barely visible. That is b/c of the harmatan. Normally they are crystal clear.)
Monday, February 11, 2008
By the way
Oh and the Daytona 500 is Sunday. Have I mentioned that already? :)
Monday night
I am thankful for the little things today like having our internet back up and working, having electricity right now and knowing that many people are praying for all of us living here. Thank you all for your prayers and for "listening" to me as I write about the weekend. :)
A most difficult weekend...
It is Monday morning and I am still feeling the effects of a very challenging and exhausting weekend. I am physically tired and emotionally fragile but somehow I sense that God is with me and for me as I wrote in my previous entry. In that entry I described how Friday Eva took very ill and we spent much of the day trying to get medical care. On Sat. she was a bit better but still very sick. And on Sunday, we took a huge step backwards as her fever in the morning again was just over 103 degrees. Margaret and I were quite distressed as we had been giving her all her meds and still she was doing poorly. It is amazingly hard to stand and watch someone suffering with chills and headache and stomach ache and burning with fever and be able to do very little to alleviate it. We sponged her and got some Advil down her but it took over an hour to get the fever down. Dr. Kanda was wonderful in that he answered our calls on Sunday morning and had us call back a couple of times with updates. The fever did break enough that we didn’t need to drive her to the office. For me personally, all this was compounded by the fact that I was really exhausted from 3 nights of very little sleep – partially due to checking on Eva and partially due to being so hot from not having electricity. The concern for Eva was weighing heavy on me but I kept crying out to the Lord for help and wisdom and He did give it. Margaret stayed home from church with me and we spent most of the day in the kitchen where we were close to Eva’s room and could check on her frequently. The electricity was off for a record almost 16 hour run – from Sat. at 7:30pm to Sunday noon -which was frustrating and distressing. Margaret and I sat together in the still of a Sunday morning in the kitchen reading, talking, being quiet, praying and eventually cooking. It was interesting to us that in the middle of all this our internet was gone and we couldn’t even send out an SOS for prayer to our respective prayer teams. But God alone knows why it was this particular time that it happened. On the practical level the internet was off b/c of two mistakes – one mine and one Margaret’s. In the midst of being ill and taking care of sick roommates, I didn’t pay the internet bill on time and they are very quick to cut any service like this if you don’t pay early or on time. On Friday b/c the internet wouldn’t connect Margaret hit the reset button on the wireless box which effectively wiped out all connections. So between the two of us we took care of our internet for the weekend:) Live and learn. The electricity and internet issues were really rather small in the midst of Eva’s illness but somehow they were large to me as I was so tired and frustrated. Once Eva’s fever broke, Margaret and I took a small rest and it did wonders for both of us. It never ceases to amaze me how being tired can skew things so much. The electricity came on and the afternoon was better all around. Eva was more comfortable, I had a better perspective on life and
One of those days...
Thursday night I woke up when the electricity cut off. It came back on a few minutes later – well partially. See electricity here runs in phases. I am not an electrician and don’t understand all the details but from what I understand different parts of the house run on different phases. So this means that half the house will have electricity and the other half won’t. And when I say half I don’t mean any kind of orderly split down the middle. It is odd but it means that some of the switches in one room will work and the others won’t – even if they are side by side –and this is throughout the house. On this particular night the phase that stayed off was the one that happened to run my AC and my ceiling fan. Honestly I could live without the AC but the ceiling fan is really hard to do without – partly b/c of the heat and partly to keep the occasional mosquito from doing fly bys with my ears. Needless to say I didn’t get much sleep that night and I was rather cranky in the morning . Upon waking up Friday morning, my roomie, Eva, came in to tell me she was sick and had had a fever in the night. She thought she had malaria. So being the angelic missionary that I am I got irritated and stated sharply that every time she gets sick it isn’t malaria. Yes, I did repent of that incredibly selfish response to someone stating they are ill! Then I did the right thing and went to her room to see what was going on. She was burning up with fever – 103- and very hot to the touch. B/c of other symptoms she described I was pretty sure it wasn’t malaria and actually was afraid it was something much more serious. After talking with Margaret, Michelle and a missionary doctor on the phone, we arranged to get her to a local doctor. My friend, John, had recommended awhile ago a doctor that was trained in the states and that is where we took her. Before we got that far, we had a lot of coordinating to do as Michelle had an appointment for our new colleagues to meet with someone to look at a house, I absolutely had to go to the bank that day to get money for some plane tickets (it isn’t as easy to do either of those things as you might think – get plane tickets or get money from the bank) and Margaret had a meeting (which she was able to reschedule). But the priority was Eva and so after much juggling and phone calling, Margaret and I were on the road with our patient. I have to say the highlight of the day for me was Dr. Kanda. He was kind, patient and thorough in his examination of Eva and if I get sick I will be seeing him. He understands the American mentality of medicine since he was trained in NY and practiced there for awhile and as he is Ghanaian he understands the African mentality of medicine. Here is one example of that difference. In
Thursday, February 7, 2008
Feb. 17 is a big day
Oh yeah and tonight the Ghana Black Stars play Cameroon in the first semi-final game of the Africa Cup of Nations. Go Black Stars.
Monday, February 4, 2008
Ghana beats Nigeria 2-1!!!!
L-R: Jeremy Maller (our new regional Project Manager), Jonathan Callus (teacher at missionary school -AIS), Eva, me, Michelle, Lee and their son TJ. And down in front - Cebu the guard dog:)
Not pictured but went with us: John Schindler (friend) and Joseph Kebbie (our Training Co-ordinator- he was taking the picture)
Yes, this is my boss - Lee Sonius. And yes, he is into football and the national fever for the Ghana Black Stars as much as anyone. Actually the nationals just love it and were honking and waving to him (and all of us) as we rode to the game yesterday.
Well.....when in Rome.....
(I just had to borrow Lee's goofy hat for a minute. Can't take myself too seriously can I?)
I don't know if you realize how important to national pride a football tournament like this is here. There is no way to adequately describe the electricity and fun and camaraderie that is around the whole country right now. If they win the cup it will be unbelievable.
At the Fan Park last night after each goal and the win, everyone was dancing and shouting and singing and hugging whomever was near them. It was crazy and wonderful all at the same time.